According to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, self-actualization is at the top. Sex is at the bottom–a basic, perhaps over-rated, physiological need–along with air, food, water, and sleep.
But at its best, sex is a means of baring your body, mind, and sprit and meeting somebody at the top of Maslow’s mountain. It is a means of making everything that may get in the way disappear while you fulfill, in one simple act, your self-actualization needs. It may last only for a moment; still it is a moment that you can hold on to.
Excerpt from my first book “Naked Relationships: Sharing your authentic self to find the partner of your dreams”