Sometimes, we can choose both …

Jan: Maybe we have a lot of pictures of you holding me??

Sam: You’re the little girl. You can help men understand that—that women are baby girls.

Jan: Women might have a tougher time with that than men do.

Sam: I know.

Jan: My baby boy!

Male or female, we are our most lovable when we are vulnerable. Don’t shy away from it, don’t be afraid to revel in it. It won’t weaken you; it will strengthen you. We don’t have to choose between baby vulnerable and adult independent, we get to be both.