Smitten by Somebody Who Gets Us!

Smitten by Somebody Who Gets Us!
Working around brick walls is hard work, though. We are smitten by somebody who lets us in and “gets” us, somebody who is tuned in to us. The biological need we have to be loved is really a need to be seen and understood, to be valued, to be responded to. To be in synch! We don’t want to ask a sweetheart to respond to an obvious need; we want him to see it and respond because he can, because he cares, because he can’t help himself. And while this seems almost lost to our consciousness, it helps to explain why sex is the favorite substitute for love. Even if it’s short-lived, we have somebody’s full attention.

a paragraph from my upcoming book “Sex … why we can’t get enough, until we come home to love”