Move the spotlight …

When we are provoked, our partners and most humans seem unsatisfactory.

When we look for flaws or scapegoats, we’re surrounded. Anything that’s different from the ideal we’ve conjured up can be an excuse to cringe or attack.

When we don’t want to resolve the differences, they seem insurmountable. We’d rather be right than validate somebody else’s view or reach a compromise (that’s the last thing we want).

As long as somebody else is wrong, we have grounds for dislike. We have an argument to stand on, maybe even a principle to defend, by God. But when we open up to love, love moves the spotlight from our differences to our sameness. And our differences can seem insignificant … mostly because they are. When we’re open to resolution, to a win-win, it can be easy to find one.

So, how do we avoid getting provoked? And how do we open up to resolution once we are provoked?

We open up to love. We choose to feel love. We choose to feed love. And that can be as simple as closing our eyes and taking a deep breath with the intention of letting love replace fear.

~ Jan Denise
Coming Home to Love