Let sex be a window into love …

We use foolish, hand-me-down notions about sex to figure out who we are, weigh our options, write our own story … and fumble our own life.

But our biological need to be loved is really a need to be understood, to be valued, to be responded to. And while this desire seems almost lost to our consciousness, we are smitten by somebody who “gets” us, somebody who is tuned in to us. And during sex, If only for a few moments, we drop our boundaries and connect! Thus, we confuse sex for love. And when we do, it becomes an obstacle to love.

But when we understand the role sex plays, we can use it as a window, rather than an obstacle.