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Is the truth so simple–or so hard–that we bypass it?

We know that our best effort to change the world starts within. Peace can come only as we ACT on what we know. Imagine a world in which each of us did the necessary inside work. Not only would we have peace, love would reign supreme in our hearts and in our world, as each of us grew into our very best self.… More

Shortcut to knowing how well somebody will love you …

SHORTCUT to knowing how well he/she will love you: Look at how well he loves himself–not how well he appears to love his mother, his kids, or anybody else. If he does more for others than he does for himself, what he does is tainted (perhaps by obligation, agenda, guilt, or desire to escape his own needs). How well does he love himself? Does he show respect for his body, mind, and spirit? Does he nurture all three of them? Does he respond to his own needs? He can only love you as well as he loves himself!… More

Let your heart lead …

Let the heart lead. It’s more decisive than the mind (without shoulds and should-nots); and it knows anything is possible! … More

The fairytale pilgrimage …

Let’s start at the beginning, with once upon a time. Let’s feel a new born’s attunement with his mother. Look in on a child as he latches on to a security blanket to cope with fear and rejection. See an adult reinforcing that blanket and shaping it into a suit of armor to win approval. And finally, let’s imagine an authentic spiritual being free of fear, exposed, but invulnerable! That’s when the prince (or princess) appears–when he is no longer “needed.” … More

Are you basking in harmony or entrenched in conflict?

When we let love slip away, we’re easily disappointed. And when we’re disappointed, we often CREATE conflict. Our partners and most humans seem unsatisfactory. When we’re looking for flaws or scapegoats, we’re surrounded! Anything that’s different from the ideal we’ve conjured up can be a foul, a convenient excuse, a reason to cringe or attack.

The differences aren’t difficult to resolve when we want to resolve them. It’s when we’re not interested in resolving them that they seem insurmountable! And sometimes we’d rather be right than validate somebody else’s view or reach a compromise (that’s the last thing we want). When we are afraid to lose (the argument or whatever it is we’re clutching), we want to make somebody else lose. As long as somebody else is wrong, we have grounds for disappointment. We have an argument to stand on, maybe even a principle to defend, by God.

But when we open up to love, love moves the spotlight from our differences to our sameness. And our differences seem insignificant … mostly because they are.

When you don’t feel love, just look around and embrace it again … and let it replace conflict with harmony!… More

A date is a bad way to get to know somebody …

Dear Jan: A divorced woman moved into the house next door to mine two weeks ago, and I find her attractive. I have seen her outside a couple of times and felt intimidated — a little. Last night I rang her doorbell. Another woman came to the door, so I asked if the owner was home. She went and got her. My neighbor’s name is Pam. She has two children — one 22 and one 18. I thought the conversation on the front porch went well and left with a good feeling.

I would like to be neighborly friends, but I also want to take her out. How do I come across as not being just a neighbor, but someone interested in dating? I know nothing about her and want to find out all I can. Should I start by asking her to go to breakfast or do something that wouldn’t be a full-fledged date? — More Than a Neighbor

What a great question! You have inspired a column — here goes.
As you point out, what you want to do is learn more about your new neighbor. And it’s probably a good idea to do that before you ask her out on a date.… More