Whether I write about breaking up or compatibility or communication, it always comes down to the same thing — know and love who you are; so that you can share all of you with enthusiasm and be at peace, regardless of the outcome. It makes sense, then, that the title of my last book is “Innately Good…dispelling the myth that we’re not.”
When we spend enough quality time to get to know who we are, we realize how wonderfully made we are! But that means stopping the busyness, all the excuses we find not to be alone with ourselves, and all of our efforts to make ourselves good enough — with another promotion, a bigger house, a trip, even meeting the needs of others, so that we don’t have to face our own. The reason we’re so busy is that we can’t get enough of whatever we fill our lives up with, to make us happy. We keep adding more and more and more.
When we break away from the treadmill, we find out that everything we were looking for — nothing more than happiness, really — was right there within us all along. The only way to be happy is to be true to what’s inside.… More

You CAN get what you want in life. And part of that is learning to align your desires, your intentions, and your beliefs.

When we have a desire, we want something. When we have an intention, we intend to have what we want. And when we intend to have it, we live life as though we will have it. If we only want something, we may intend to go on wanting it indefinitely. We may go through the motions of doing something about our desire only to relieve our sense of obligation to do something, with no real intention of ever satisfying our desire.

If we want something and we don’t intend to have it, chances are we have conflicting desires or limiting beliefs.

Maybe you want to lose ten pounds and you also want to continue to eat as much as you’re eating now. Hmmm … looking honestly at both of your desires allows you to see an option you may have missed. And the option to burn more calories — rather than eat fewer calories — may spur an intention.

Maybe you want to get along with your sweetheart and you also want to make him see how wrong he is.… More

We can choose to transcend differences using love, or inflate them using fear. How big are your differences? … More