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There is no secret formula (unless you’re trying to sell books) for meeting people you want to date. You meet them the way you meet anybody else. Go where they are and introduce yourself. Don’t know where they are? Look around, but beware of traps. If you’re not into nightclubs, don’t go expecting to find a person you will be into.

Do what you love to do. You want to introduce the enlivened you (some people feel more downtrodden than alive at singles events). Sparkle is what makes us attractive.

There’s a familiar (and debated) story of how Hillary Rodham walked across the Yale Law School library and introduced herself to Bill Clinton. Even those who accuse the senator of inflating her importance in the story readily admit she intrigues and goes for what she wants. And you can do the same, playing by your own rules.

Get comfortable with yourself, and you’ll be warm and receptive and engaging — very attractive qualities. Practice on people you’re not interested in dating or people you don’t know you’re interested in dating. Have fun with it. And you just might find yourself dating somebody you thought was too rich or too poor, too young or too old, who is really just perfect.… More

What do you do when you have the answer, and people aren’t quite convinced? You demonstrate it, right? You show them how well the answer works. You let them see it with their own eyes. Well, love is the answer! Today is another day to demonstrate it; and we can be better at it today than we were yesterday. … More