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See, Share, Celebrate What’s Real!

You’re gritting your teeth and talking under your breath again, wondering if he deliberately provokes you … and if he waits until people are watching to do it.

It’s no coincidence that he’s more irritating when you’re the center of attention. That is, after all, when you’re more consumed with presentation — and what everybody else is thinking! Therein lies the problem.

When it seems as though he’s annoying you, he’s actually just triggering your feelings of insecurity. Without those, there would be no reason to grit your teeth. The mother of all your negative, self-defeating emotion is the belief that you’re not good enough. If you knew beyond all doubt that there was nothing wrong with you, you could drop the pretense and share the real you, without any anxiousness, defensiveness, blame, or qualifiers! And he, too, could be himself, without your making excuses for his behavior, or wondering who noticed!

If that sounds implausible, it’s because you’re playing prisoner to perception.

But what’s real is more sacred and more beautiful than what you’ve conjured up to fit in or win approval. If you don’t believe me, imagine the sleeping face of your first child, or your sweetheart, or the beloved friend who died last year.… More

Don’t reduce your wish list to what somebody else can give you …

If you want to order the cheapest thing on the menu or take a budget vacation, go ahead; but don’t resort to practical wishes. What do you really want for Christmas? Now, tell him, tell everybody. Don’t depend on anybody else to deliver it, though.

I remember finally realizing that it was okay to buy myself jewelry, after falling for the fallacy that somebody else was supposed to buy it for me … because they thought I deserved it. Well, guess what? You deserve it, whether he knows it or not; and he’s unlikely to know it before you do.

We’re not talking about entitlement or arrogance. We’re talking about realizing who you are; and connecting with your wishes is a beautiful way to catch a glimpse of the real you! When you trade your dream for what somebody else thinks of you, or what somebody else can afford, or what somebody else customarily picks out for you, you get a distorted view of YOU.

Pretend you have a fairy godmother who’s ready to make an appearance, which means you’re ready for her to make an appearance! A fairy godmother is nothing more than you coming to your own rescue. Now, look through her eyes at you.… More

Coming from a pure place …

Love is love! It doesn’t vary from one day to the next or one person to the next. It knows no deviation. It CAN’T be altered or deterred.

The love we’re able to demonstrate, though, isn’t always pure. As we grow, the purity of our love grows, as well. As we practice showing love, our skill in showing it improves. We learn to recognize our fear, our ego, our ulterior motives, and expectations of getting something in return.

We come from a purer place … and what comes from a purer place is purer. It’s closer to the love that is love. … More

Sometimes we just want to stay in the chair …

My dreams are like my writing. Even when they’re not about me, they are. In last night’s dream, a friend was in a high chair eating the entirety of a little birthday cake, with another one waiting.

It’s a reminder to mature, to move forward when I have learned what I can from a situation, a relationship, a job, whatever it may be. We can fill our lives with good things that we have outgrown, things that once served us, but no longer do.

We are forever growing into the fullness of love! … More

Love nudges …

I know my baby loves me because he helps me break through what he calls my cocoons … yes I have more than one. Sometimes we need a little nudge to breakaway from our comfort zone, our security blanket, good things that used to serve us, but no longer do.

Somebody who truly loves you trusts you enough to be honest with you, to encourage you to grow, to be all you can be … over, and over, and over again! … More

This year isn’t over yet!

I know my baby loves me because he knows me–probably better than I used to imagine that anybody could, better than I used to know myself.

If you want to see how well somebody can love you, you have to let him know you. Keep opening up to love. It’s the work of a lifetime.

I’m still at it! This year isn’t over yet! … More