When we step back and witness our own life, we can see it from a more Godly, more loving, perspective.

That allows us to also live it with more awareness. It allows us to actually experience it with less pain and more joy. And it inspires us to exercise our own creative power. … More

From a reader:
I am a 46-year-old man who has been divorced for almost four years, with part-time custody of my 8-year-old daughter. I am getting discouraged with the whole dating thing and do not want just a casual affair. I am handsome, caring, professional, artistic, funny, handy, intelligent, I cook, and I truly care about other people. I know this may come across as arrogant, but I am truly not.

I can’t seem to meet someone I can have a meaningful relationship with. I am not super-picky, I just want someone who takes care of herself, is moral, enjoys life, has no addictions and can give and receive love. I think this is pretty basic stuff.

It consistently appears to me that if you treat women with somewhat neglect, they want you. Treat them with respect and romance, and it sends them packing. …I make a strong effort not to come on too strong within the first few months of a relationship.

A friend of mine who is female said that I scare women off because I seem too good to be true. What do you think is my problem?

Expensive cars, powerful jobs, and I-can-have-anybody-I-want attitudes get a woman’s attention, much the way red lips and exposed curves get a man’s.… More

This Valentine’s Day, no matter where you are — on the fence, fizzling out, stuck on the surface, or alone — I have practical tips for you. You’ll find you in one of the lists below.

Are you trying to decide if he (or she) is not that into you? Before you break the bank or take time off from work to try harder, he’s probably not that into you if:

1. He’s not that into himself. And you can tell how into himself he is by how well he knows himself — not how arrogant he is.

2. He doesn’t know who you are — not what you do for a living or a list of facts — what’s important to you, what you stand for, what you’re passionate about.

3. He doesn’t respect you for who you are.

4. He’s more interested in what you do together than just spending time together.

5. He talks to you but doesn’t listen to you or listens to you but doesn’t talk to you.

6. He doesn’t introduce you to his family and friends or take you to his office party.

7. He spends money freely on himself but skimps on you.… More