A relationship is work. And sex is one of those reminders that it’s worth it.

Sex helps us to drop our boundaries and reconnect. It gives us a glimpse of love without all the distractions. It reminds us that our relationship is bigger than the problems and that we’re in them together. It reminds us that we are a superhero. And it gives us a second wind to live again. … More

PRACTICE is the difference between competent and incompetent, fit and fat, happy and miserable. Let’s practice!

And what better thing to practice than relationships. … More

I finally realize that the reason I keep moving from one woman to the next is that I’m afraid I’ll cheat again. It’s been six years since my divorce, but I am still pained by my behavior. And I don’t want to hurt anybody else.

We might assume that people don’t commit because they want newness or variety, but sometimes they’re just afraid … not only of hurting somebody else but of feeling the pain of guilt when they do.

So, how do we forgive ourselves and experience peace?

Chances are you’ve betrayed somebody or been betrayed — maybe both — and if you’ve been honest with yourself, you know there were two players. In a partnership, it’s not quite as simple as one thoroughly innocent party and one thoroughly guilty party.

While you can’t blame anybody else for your own behavior, neither can anybody else blame you for theirs. We’re all learning — mostly through hard knocks.

No, I’m not attempting to justify or trivialize betrayal. I can’t justify other forms of deception either, though. And when one partner cheats, often both partners were just going through the motions of a relationship, pretending not to notice that something, or just about everything, was wrong.… More