Until we have learned to love ourselves unconditionally, we may imagine God to love us only if we meet certain conditions. We may fashion Him after our fears, as a father who gets angry when we stumble, and as one who would punish us from that anger.

But God is not fashioned after our fears. Rather, we are fashioned after His spirit.

God made us lovable. And He gave us the privilege of freewill. We continually choose to be true to fear or to spirit. … More

Q: I am in desperate need of some advice. I feel that my marriage is going downhill fast and I want to save it. Let me tell you the story.

A couple of years ago, I accidentally found e-mails that my husband was sending to an old girlfriend he wanted to meet up with. He told her a ton of lies about our relationship. I confronted him, and everything has been going OK.

But now he is meeting women online and talking “personal” talk to them. He sits in the living room with me and talks to them. When I ask who he is talking to, he lies. I know, because I have the passwords for his accounts and can see what is being said.

I don’t know what to do. We have been married 12 1/2 years. I still love him and I forgave him; however, I don’t trust him anymore and I am scared that he is going to find someone else and leave.

Can you please give me some advice as to what I can do to help us reconnect and save our marriage?

A: The first step is to talk with your husband in a totally open way, the way you might talk to me or to a best friend.… More

You’ll decide for yourself what the best of summer is. For me it’s freedom. Summer is an excuse to ditch the clothes, the formality, and the schedule.

What do you want to be free of in your life? Your relationship?

Maybe the kids keep a lid on your sexuality, maybe HIS (or her) routine curbs your creativity, or maybe finances have reined in your generosity. Don’t let anything confine you. Freedom is essential to your joy; because it’s essential to being you!

I won’t tell you to throw the kids out, but change your perception of them; and give them an accurate perception of fun, loving, free you. You don’t have to disregard his routine, but neither do you have to make it yours. If you lose yourself, you’ll both be bored with you. And money has always been relative. When you are grateful for what you have, it becomes enough to share. You don’t need enough to impress people, or feed your ego, or conform.

You don’t have to join a health club to be fit or go to the doctor to be healthy. You don’t have to show up in a new car or even own a car to keep up with anybody else.… More