With the emphasis on home and garden this month, it’s easy to feel as though you spend more time maintaining your home than enjoying it, right? And chances are you’ve also felt that way about your relationship. The words — muttered or screamed — go something like, “My God, can’t we be civil long enough to enjoy one measly weekend?”
Therein lies the problem! When you can’t get along, anger and resentment are brewing, just waiting to boil over. So, you find yourself either boiling over or trying to keep a lid on it. Not fun! And although you are not actually doing anything to maintain the relationship, what you are doing is draining. You feel spent, with nothing to show for it.
You’ve probably used plenty of Saturdays, albeit with better results, to spruce up the house, mow the yard, plant flowers — or at least lined up somebody else to do it all? Well, taking care of your relationship also requires time; and you can’t delegate it! You have to get involved in the details and follow through, not simply endure the agony of what’s gone awry. It’s work.
While doing it may not seem like fun; not doing it is even less fun.… More