“I know she loves me, but it sure doesn’t feel like it when she continues to reject 70 percent of my physical advances,” writes a reader.
“The man must love me — he’d do anything for me. But I swear he responds to less than half of what I say,” writes another.
We’re not content to simply know somebody’s love is there for us, should we be in dire need. We want to feel the love and take pleasure in it, day in and day out. That desire is fundamental to being human.
Unfortunately, many people live without the warmth and nourishment of feeling continually loved, despite the fact that they are loved. Why? One useful explanation is found in Gary Chapman’s “The Five Love Languages.”
The premise is that you might express love in a language your partner isn’t fluent in — and vice versa. In other words, you could be thinking, “I don’t know what else I could possibly do to show the man I love him,” while he’s thinking, “All I want is more physical affection from my wife, is that asking too much?”
So, take a look at the “five languages” and see which one is yours and which one is your partner’s.… More