From a reader: “You said what makes two people compatible is how deeply and broadly they connect. Intuitively, it sounds right to me, but what exactly does it mean? How does it play out in a relationship?”

To connect deeply we have to get naked, not just physically (that’s the easy part), but mentally and emotionally. We can’t skate on the surface chatting about the weather and expect to attract a soul mate.

We have to risk talking about religion and politics, spirituality and values, dreams we still dream, lessons we can’t seem to learn, and fears we still run from. We have to share from a deep place inside of us if we want to connect deeply. As simple as that sounds, it can be difficult just to face some of what’s in there, let alone pull it out and share it with somebody we’re trying to impress.

The irony is that once you’ve looked at what’s in there, you start to realize how amazing you are! That doesn’t mean everybody will connect with you. But whether they connect or not, if you’re trying to determine compatibility, rather than prove it, your mission is accomplished! And there need not be any hurt feelings.… More

You know that safe place you had with a grandparent? Remember the teacher who believed in you?

In their presence, it seemed like everything would be okay, right? You felt safe … to run and to fall down. You could do anything. Because somebody loved you no matter what!

Now, you can give yourself a safe place and carry it with you everywhere.… More

Valentine’s Day is for the infatuated, the brokenhearted, the deeply in love, the old and worn, the young and anxious…and, of course, the coupled and the single. It’s for you!

You don’t have to worry about how you fit in, or how it plays out for you. It’s designed for you and you’re in charge of how happy it is or isn’t. Come on, you knew I wouldn’t leave your happiness up to somebody else.

So, what do you want? Where do you want to celebrate? How do you want to celebrate?

Valentine’s Day is for lovers. And you are a lover — a beautiful, incredible lover, if I may say so. You can have whatever you want for Valentine’s Day! In fact, you will have whatever you want. You will choose consciously, or unconsciously, with your beliefs and the actions you take based on those beliefs.

Just for a minute, pretend you have the most magnificent partner, better than you ever hoped or imagined you could get. And you’re looking for a gift that will reflect your sweetheart and your love and gratitude for him (or her).

Stay with me, I realize that pretend isn’t quite the same as real, but you actually have YOU!… More