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1. Stop thinking in terms of “failure” and think in terms of learning what works.

2. Redefine “success” as: Learning what you’re made of and being true to it, which is simply being authentic.

3. Resist the temptation to look for salvation in some thing or person outside of yourself.

4. See learning as your passion. You are uniquely designed to be a student of life and love.

5. Trust that you were intended to learn from consequences, and that you are incredibly resilient.

6. Move through the obstacles and storms and detours, trusting your inner guidance and where it will lead you.

7. Realize that your ultimate lesson is to know and love yourself well; and that in doing so, you will also know and love others well.

8. Relax and be you, knowing that you are love … and love cannot really fail.… More

You’ve never seen him before — the guy across the room smiling at you. And he’s hot, not because he has a chiseled jaw or even a full head of hair, but because he’s unabashedly looking at what he likes. You! Now what?

If you’re not in a relationship, you can’t wait to find out! If you are in a relationship, this is a test. How strong is your commitment, the thing that keeps you faithful?

You are likely to stay committed as long as you think you can get more of what you want where you are than you could get elsewhere; and you’re likely to break your commitment if you decide you can get more of what you want some place else. So, what do you want? Chances are, neither a chiseled jaw nor hot sex is at the top of your list. Knowing what IS on your list — as well as his — can keep you both satisfied, rather than feeling stuck. It’s not just a matter of staying or knowing that you will; it’s a matter of knowing that you want to.

You don’t commit once and for all; you are continually choosing.

And commitment is a two-edged sword.… More