There is no better place. There is no better time … to be you, to be beautiful, to bloom.

This is it. We can’t just decide to do it later, without doing it now. If we are to do it later, we must start now. If we are to do it someplace else, we must start here.

Photo: When I spotted this bloom-where-you-are flower, I had to snap it. … More

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In desperate moments, we just want somebody to have dinner with…but in our heart of hearts, we want to be cherished. We want to be completely known and loved by somebody who thinks we’re perfect.

For years I’m sure there were people who thought I was way too picky or idealistic. Some of them gave words to their exasperation, “What do you think you’re going to do with Mr. Perfect when you find him? Isn’t he going to want somebody perfect?”

I wasn’t looking for anybody else’s idea of perfection, though. The 35-year-old on the cover of “Fortune” will likely go for somebody younger…OK, maybe taller and richer, too. But, hey, 35 isn’t perfect for me. And maybe it isn’t perfect for you, either.

There is somebody out there who is perfect for you, though, and you can trust that you are perfect for him (or her), as well.

When Ann Weber, professor of psychology at the University of N.C. at Chapel Hill, first told me, “A five is going to be most happy with a five,” I cringed. I am idealistic enough that assigning a number — a five (out of 10) — to humans in search of love seemed cold.… More