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Dear Friends,

It’s tough to do great things by setting out to do them; because before we even get started, we’re probably coming from ego. Besides, we have to manage little things to get the experience we need to manage bigger ones. And that can leave us shying away from doing much of anything.

But when we begin to do something, we are encouraged. Peace and joy lie in doing what we can, not what we wish we could do. And when we move beyond our preconceived notion of what “great” looks like, we make way for what great really is. It’s doing what we can with love.

We can sweep a dirt floor with love, or we can build a castle without it. But we can’t be happy without love.

We forget–again and again–but never forever. And the more we practice, the longer we remember.

Love and hugs,… More

Are you and your partner in sync? Do you work, eat and sleep at the same times?

You might look at celebrities and long-distance partners and wonder how they do it, but maybe you could just as viably wonder how you do it. That is, if you were objective.

If you were a therapist on the wall in your kitchen, living room and bedroom, what in the world would you be thinking?

You’ve seen the ongoing analysis of famous couples walking down the sidewalk. How he holds her hand, how she holds her purse, everything means something. And nobody’s in a better position than you are to know what your behavior means.

How often do you actually walk down the sidewalk together? How often are you in the same room together? How often do you look into each other’s eyes? Touch each other? Compliment each other? Nag each other?

If your initial observations (as an objective party on the wall) raise concern, start making changes — simple changes that seem like no-brainers from a distance.

Schedule dinner at the same time every night. It doesn’t matter how often you actually eat at 7, what matters is that you have a date — to keep or reschedule!… More