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Where does sex fit in?

Maybe Maslow was right … maybe sex IS an over-rated basic physiological need.

And maybe making love is an under-rated self-actualization need! It is an opportunity to express love, to fill and be filled with love, and to know oneness, the ultimate in spiritual gratification, as well as physical gratification.… More

What are you feeling?

Seventy percent of communication is nonverbal. What are you saying with your attitude, tone, and body language?

You’re saying what you feel! And people hear what you feel, more than they hear what you say.

If you feel love, then they will! … More

Dear Friends …

Sam and I have an ongoing habit of tweaking our food. I made peach cobbler the other day … and he has doctored it three different ways since his first warm-from-the-oven serving. He takes his food seriously. You can imagine what he does with me!

Actually, he trusts me to do the ultimate tweaking. But, he doesn’t miss a chance to prod.

Here’s what I’m realizing. There is nothing noble about mediocrity, in food or anything else.

Our essence is authentic love. And it doesn’t just feel good. It feels absolutely perfect.

It’s not about fighting the winds, though. It’s about befriending them and flowing with them. It’s about tuning into who we are and what synchs with us. And what synchs doesn’t feel like, “Okay, that works.” It feels like, “Kaboom!”

Whether it’s what you’re wearing, or the sheets you’re sleeping on, or what you see when you look out your window … it can feel like, “Yes! This is so me!”

Don’t stop until it does.… More

Do you need a better option?

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Do you really want to love others?

If you want to impress people, give them an expensive gift. If you want to demonstrate thoughtfulness, give them something creative. If you want to win their allegiance, give them an invitation they couldn’t get. If you truly want to love them, show them how incredibly lovable they are. … More

How attractive are you?

The media hosts an ongoing parade of beautiful people. They even offer commentary on the most beautiful eyes, lips and buttocks, helping us to embrace both a false sense of normal and a false sense of ideal.

There is no ideal. And there certainly is no ideal for everybody — 5’10” cannot be ideal for a woman who is 5’4″. I know this!

Yet studies show that the vast majority of women are uncomfortable with their looks, particularly their bodies. But women are giving men — who live longer, stay more active and marry women half their age (I’m funny, not bitter, really) — a taste of how it feels to be gawked at, reveled in and critiqued.

Still, women are more apt to be trapped in their innate desire to please men (the creation story in Genesis nails this). Measuring up to the ideal they think men want weighs on them, the way being strong and powerful weighs on many men.

Think about it, though. The average man is less than 5 feet 10 inches tall. Do you really think he prefers a 5-foot 10-inch woman to make him feel big and strong? There is no ideal match, either. I think God made my husband, Sam, 6 feet 3 inches tall to remove any doubt in my mind.… More