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Unconditional love …

When I have learned to love myself, I can truly love another, without using him to meet my own needs.

When I have faced my own open wounds and my own scars, and known both “weakness” and strength side-by-side in me, I can know them in another, without judging him.

I can see what transcends the physical. I can love him unconditionally, for who he is and not what he has to give me.

And I can let him love all of me.… More

Do you want to contemplate it or try it?

I sometimes find myself tiptoeing around the options, examining them carefully, as though to touch them or try them is against the rules. Maybe you’ve been there — trying to make a decision without the advantage (and it’s a big one) of trying the options.

I have learned that it’s faster to rearrange the furniture and see how I like it than it is to stand there wondering. I will try it before making a final decision. So, why spend too much time and energy belaboring it?

We’re continually faced with choices — little ones (some of which have a big impact) and life-changing ones. And sometimes we have to DO something to decide on a direction, and then the next step. We are intended to live life, not just contemplate it.

We discover what is sacred in the silence of simply being. But we learn to walk by falling on our butt.

Don’t be afraid to try a new approach, to visit a foreign place, whether it’s across the street or the planet. Don’t be afraid to experience a new person. Sometimes experience is a more effective and efficient teacher than contemplation. It’s okay to experience something, to enjoy somebody before committing.… More

Dear Friends …

Dear Friends,

Understanding the truth in your head is a place to start, but it’s no place to stay. Unless you move the truth from your head to your heart, you’ll remain unhappy.

If you’re thinking, “But doesn’t my heart already know the truth?” Yes! But if you’ve spent most of your life guarding your heart, you may not readily feel the truth. And that’s what you want to do. You want to feel the truth, as well as understand it.

Likewise, if you’re distracted by scattered emotions, you can gather them into your mind and heart. You can discover meaning in them and understand them.

When you bring the understanding of your mind and the feeling, or intuitive knowing, of your heart together, then, you begin to change the way you live your life.

We don’t want to choose between our mind and our heart, our thoughts and our feelings. We don’t want to dismiss our emotions, our moods, our wounds. We don’t want to justify our erratic behavior.

We want to bring it all together. When we have consonance, rather than conflict, we have peace. And we have something to stand on, something to build on.… More