When we let go of our egos, we find that loving others is enough. We don’t have to benefit from them, show them the error of their ways, or even help them. We can see their inherent worth and simply love them.… More

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As long as there are single people, they will strive to meet each other and explore the prospects of pairing up. If it were easy, I wouldn’t get so much mail.

We make it harder than it has to be, though. We go to a lecture or a park or a bar to meet somebody. We look around and dismiss the options or wait for them to fall at our feet. They don’t. And we go home!

We pass up opportunities and then lament the lack thereof. We justify passing with: He’s not really my type. She would never go for me … I really need a different car. It’s too hot out here. I’ve got work to do. Who am I trying to kid?

We lack initiative because we lack faith. If you believed she would go for you, you would, with natural warmth and charm, sprint over and introduce yourself.

If this resonates, look at why she wouldn’t go for you. Then, do something about it. Be the person you might be attracted to if you were in her place. Don’t get a new car for her, but if you want a new car, get one. Don’t lose 10 pounds for him, but if you’re feeling dejected, lose the 10 pounds for you.… More