Especially in trying to attract the “right” partner, you may present what you hope will win approval. But in the process, you hide what is sacred. And only the authentic self can attract the “right” partner. Only the authentic self can live the life you want to live.… More

In any given scenario, we are presented with only two choices: Love and Fear. Seems like that would make it easy enough to choose Love. And it would, if Love and Fear really showed up as an angel on one shoulder and a devil on the other. Love is full of paradox, though. It is both ancient and childlike, invincible and tender, responsible and free.

And we can mask Fear before we’re even consciously aware that it is Fear. With our helping hand, Fear might appear in a mask as innocent as doubt or indifference. We may convince ourselves that Fear is not Fear at all, and “we’re just waiting for the right opportunity” or “choosing realistically.” Other times, we mask Fear with something as ugly as anger; but justify it and call it Love. And, when our survival seems blatantly threatened, we may see Fear for what it is and claim it as the only choice.

How do you react in the face of fear? Do you instinctively fight, run, or freeze? If you act unconsciously, you do one of the three. And 98 percent of all brain activity is completely unconscious. So, are we unwittingly choosing a life of fear … a life of pain, and lack, and stress, a life destined to fall short of what we want?… More