When’s the last time you tried something HE (or she) likes to do? Oh, and when’s the last time you grumbled because HE was doing it by himself?

Behavioral intimacy, or how much you like to do together, is one measure of compatibility. And you don’t really know if you like to jog, or golf, or play poker if you haven’t given it a fair chance. Try on his interests and enjoy the aspects that you CAN appreciate. You’ll learn more about what speaks to him, pleases him, energizes him, and relaxes him. You’ll also understand him better, which grows more love and acceptance.

If you’re thinking, “Yeah right, like he’s going to take me jogging,” ask yourself why he wouldn’t. Maybe he assumes you’re not inclined to jog, because YOU have assumed you’re not. Why?

Then, think about what you would absolutely love to do and invite him to join you. If he declines, you can suggest an alternative, or do it without him. He might surprise you by accepting your invitation … and posing his own. If you want an invitation, don’t nag or complain; just give HIM one! Stay in touch with what nurtures you — physically, mentally, or spiritually — and share it.… More

Keep talking until you don’t need to talk anymore. But don’t keep saying the same words. Find a way to say what you feel, so that it can be understood. Communication is an ongoing process. And with practice, we learn to do it better. … More

May we let go of the beliefs that limit us. They are not OUR beliefs. They were embraced by our ego. And they are rooted in fear, not love. We are bigger than our ego. We are love.… More