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The truth …

The truth is written on our hearts; but in order to survive in an indoctrinated society, we grow up learning lies. We can replace them with the truth we know.… More

You first …

When we have faced the needs of our own grass and cared for it, we are at peace. We are less apt to judge others. And we can love them; because we have learned to love our self. … More

Free …

We can be free of worrying about what others think. We can know, and love, and approve of who we are, regardless of their lack of knowing, love, and approval. Their lack is not about us.… More

Dear Friends … the answer you already have

“By next year, I may be living on a spring, with a contract for my next book,” I said. That was about a year ago. I am living in the same house. My agent gave up on getting a publisher for the book he was so enthused about. And to honor my mom’s wishes, we moved her from a nursing home into the bedroom across from my office.

But that’s not the end of the story. I have more to write … about life, about sex, about relationships, about me. I have more to give. And I know I have so much more to live.

I intend to give, to live, and to love more than ever. And I might even take a stab at what that looks like. But this I know … for right now, the next step to the house on a spring is a weekend at a Bed and Breakfast on a spring. The next step to a book contract is opening a bigger spout to pour from. And no matter what it LOOKS like, it’s going to FEEL perfect, as long as I choose to respond in love.

Love smiles,… More

Relationship Theory Simplified …

The Reward Theory of Attraction Says:
We are most attracted to those who give us maximum rewards at minimum cost to us. And four of the most compelling sources of reward are:

Proximity: Frequent contact predicts closeness.
Similarity: Shared attitudes, interests, values and experiences are rewarding.
Self-disclosure: Intimate sharing builds trust and allows us to know each other.
Physical attractiveness: We find beauty rewarding.

But the Expectancy-Value Theory says:
We weigh the value of the reward against our expectation of success in a relationship.

Don’t get scared and underestimate your ability to succeed in the relationship of your dreams. It’s your destiny … that’s MY theory!… More

Our divine purpose is …

Fulfilling out divine purpose is as straightforward as choosing love. But it’s an ONGOING choice. May we tune in to love and continually choose to let it displace our fear.… More