“Excuse me, I’m here with laundry for Little Miss Pretty Thing,” I said to Mom. Two or three times a week, I open her closet and restock it. But as I was hanging up Mom’s clothes yesterday, it occurred to me that I take very good care of her. I knew that (thank you, God). But in that moment, I was observing practical evidence in her color wheel of pocketed pajamas.

For years, I’ve written about the idea that we can only love somebody else as well as we love ourself. One of my favorite talks is, “Shortcut to Knowing How Well He Will Love You.” And as I hung up Mom’s clothes, it was clear that I loved her AS I loved myself.

Life is way cool. We just keep learning to do it better. And as we do, we are immersed in the evidence of love.

Love smiles,… More

Amen: With a grateful heart, I receive it.… More

Q: I am in desperate need of some advice. I feel that my marriage is going downhill fast and I want to save it. Let me tell you the story.

A couple of years ago, I accidentally found e-mails that my husband was sending to an old girlfriend he wanted to meet up with. He told her a ton of lies about our relationship. I confronted him, and everything has been going OK. But now he is meeting women online and talking “personal” talk to them. He sits in the living room with me and talks to them. When I ask who he is talking to, he lies. I know, because I have the passwords for his accounts and can see what is being said.

I don’t know what to do. We have been married 12 1/2 years. I still love him and I forgave him; however, I don’t trust him anymore and I am scared that he is going to find someone else and leave.

Can you please give me some advice as to what I can do to help us reconnect and save our marriage?

A: The first step is to talk with your husband in a totally open way, the way you might talk to me or to a best friend.… More