What you are compelled to control, controls YOU. When you let go, you free YOURSELF.… More

When’s the last time you tried something HE likes to do? Last time you grumbled because he was doing it?

Behavioral intimacy, or how much you like to do together, is one measure of compatibility. And you don’t really know if you like to jog, or golf, or play poker if you haven’t given it a fair chance. Try on his interests and enjoy the aspects that you can appreciate. You’ll learn more about what speaks to him, pleases him, energizes him, and relaxes him. You’ll understand him better, which makes it easier to love and accept him.

If you’re thinking, “Yeah right, like he’s going to take me jogging,” ask yourself why he wouldn’t. Maybe he assumes you’re not inclined to jog, because you have assumed you’re not. Why?

Then, think about what you would absolutely love to do and invite him to join you. If he declines, you can suggest an alternative, or do it without him. He might surprise you by accepting your invitation … and posing his own. If you want an invitation, don’t nag or complain; just give HIM one! Stay in touch with what nurtures you — physically, mentally, or spiritually — and share it.… More