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Becoming …
And … of course, it was never really about finding a princess, either. It was always about becoming a prince. … More
Dear Friends … What are you trading your strength for?
Sitting in the hall waiting for an aide, my 93-year-old mom said, “I’m losing my strength just sitting here.” The aide kindly responded, “I think you’re losing your patience.” Mom wasn’t losing her strength by sitting there. She was losing her strength by embracing impatience.
That’s what we often do. We trade our strength, our peace, our joy, for negative emotion. Getting impatient, angry, or jealous drains us. It’s not the waiting; it’s losing our patience while we wait. It’s not falling on our face; it’s getting angry about it that knocks the wind out of us. And embracing negative emotion is a choice. Consciously or unconsciously, we embrace the “good” or the “bad.” It’s true in every area of our life. It’s not a person or situation that drains us. It’s choosing to stray from love.
Mom could have sat there patiently and enjoyed the view and a deep breath. She got impatient, instead; maybe because she felt indignant or left behind. And when we embrace fear-based emotion, it displaces love. Love is unthreatened. Love is at peace. Love is happy.
Positive emotion gives us a second wind. It’s birthed by love, rather than fear. And love continually fuels the truth that everything we encounter is designed to serve our highest good.… More
Whether you stay or walk, love well
“I hate to give up on our relationship, but to stay feels like giving up on my dreams,” says a client.
To walk away from what we hoped — and promised — would last forever is one of the most heart-wrenching breaks we can make. It feels as though we’re cutting off a piece of ourselves … and we struggle desperately to decide if it’s right and if it’s necessary.
How do we know?
Ask yourself: What would I do if I weren’t afraid? Will I be better off next week, next month and next year if I stay?
Don’t kid yourself. You don’t really want to feed your fear. And if staying doesn’t serve you, it doesn’t serve your partner either. It’s arrogant to think that a partner needs your pity. He needs love; he doesn’t have to get it from you.
Don’t give up on yourself and don’t give up on your partner, either. If you’re both better off without each other, then give up on the relationship and save yourselves.
Your dreams are a reflection of who you are, or at least they should be. If they’re obsolete, change them. Base them on what you want — not on what somebody else wants for you or what society expects.… More
Your heart knows …
When we look within, we are no longer distracted by the outside. We can feel, and give our mind a chance to grasp, what our heart has always known.… More
Certainty and Uncertainty coming together …
In love, you can trust the certainty all things flowing together for your highest good, while you delight in anticipation of how.… More
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