Love has no agenda …

What do you really want to BE this year? When you truly know that, you will also know what you want to DO. And doing it will become second nature!

We’ve established that the best way to eat, exercise, or make love well is to get in the habit of doing it well. The easiest way to form a habit is with motivation. And the healthiest motivation is positive.

Don’t get caught up in what you should do, and don’t act from guilt or fear. Take care of yourself because you WANT to be a vibrant, healthy person–not because you’re afraid of dying. Get up in the morning and paint because you WANT to be a painter–not because you have to go to work, not because you should provide for your family.

If you can’t do what you’re doing because it’s a reflection of who you WANT to BE, take another look at what you’re doing. And if your resolutions for this year don’t reflect who you WANT to BE, reassess them…and your motivation.

Look at who you want to be–who you ARE at a core level–and ask yourself what that person would do that you’re not doing. Write down your answers.… More

Most of us get very little formal training for relationships. We read articles, books, maybe even take a class; but the bulk of our training is based on our experience.

How much do you know? And how much of that do you actually practice?

If you want a more direct path to the relationship of your dreams, text me to schedule a consultation … or come to my next live workshop in Florida on February 10. … More

Are you traveling through life with more or less baggage this week, this month, this year? Want to take a load off?

Look at your baggage. You’re in charge of evaluating it, setting limits, deciding what you can’t take with you, what you don’t want to take with you.

Love is enough! But without love, there’s an awful lot of baggage … and it feels like you need it! … More

Somebody asked that I explain the difference between being in love and loving. Maybe being in love is simply wanting to spend the rest of your life and share your bed with somebody you truly love!

And to truly love somebody is to know them to the core and respect them for who they are–not what they have, not what they have done, and not what they can offer you. It is to want their highest good, regardless of how you fit into that. It is to accept them unconditionally, to trust them with the truth, the whole truth. It is to care for them and respond to their needs, from desire, rather than obligation. To love somebody is to trust who they are, even when past performance demonstrates a lack of learning. It is to hold somebody tenderly when they need it, without being afraid to kick them in the butt when they need it. To love somebody is to tune into them on a deep level, to see, and hear, and understand who they are, and who they are still becoming.… More