Love has no agenda …

We can tell what we’re ready for by what comes our way. And instead of lamenting what’s presented — because we were hoping for something “more” — we can be grateful for what is. When we appreciate what is, embrace it, and learn from it, we ready ourselves for what will be.
You may want your prince to show up with a kiss that magically transforms your life, but the prince isn’t going to show up until the princess is ready. Cinderella had to sweep a lot of floors and do a lot of soul searching before she got to dance with the prince … and then she had to let go of him at midnight. Only then, were they united in an ongoing dance of the heart.
So when you encounter still another floor to sweep, sweep well. When you’re challenged to search your soul and purge another layer of fear, purge well. When you encounter a beautiful human being who’s not your prince (or princess), love well.
Take joy in what is! Don’t try to squeeze yourself or somebody else into an ill-founded script. Play the role of you, stark naked you. And when you’re playing it well, your prince (or princess) will show up.… More

A relationship is work; but if I allow enough time and energy for the work, it feels like the most rewarding of all work! If not, it just feels like a bad investment! Give it all you’ve got! … More

Ana Speaks Radio Show

Jan Denise, author and speaker, joins us for a chat about Love, Sex, and Intimacy. More about Jan Denise at www.jandenise.com

Join the conversation tomorrow, Wednesday July 19th, 9pm EST. Click Listen Live at www.anaspeaks.com, #anaspeaks… More

Dating can be like a box of chocolates — you never know what you’re gonna get (borrowing from the movie “Forest Gump”). Even when we’ve taken great care to screen the chocolates, we can be surprised. The good news is — all the chocolates have something to teach us! When we’re following our truth, we always win. There are no “bad” chocolates! You knew that! There are no “bad” dates, either. … More

Do what you truly want. No tit for tat or trying to please. Then, you can be happy, regardless of the outcome!
You and your partner will enjoy each other more, and resent each other less! … More

Sitting on the dock the other day, I decided to lie back and close my eyes … one of my favorite things to do. As I lay there, I began to hear sounds that I hadn’t heard with my eyes open. My hearing became more sensitive, because for the moment I was unable to see. I heard the birds I hadn’t seen, the ones hidden in the trees. I heard the bait fish just beneath the water’s surface. And, I heard my heart in the stillness.
Lying back with my eyes closed, I was more receptive, more open to what I could not see. And I became more aware of my oneness with what was around me when I was feeling it, rather than merely looking at it.
When I opened my eyes again, I held on to the feeling. And, I saw more than I had seen before. I still heard the birds in the trees, and now I could see them. I still heard the little fish beneath the surface, and now I could see their motion on top of the water. I still heard my heart, still felt the oneness with all of my life.
And, I suppose that’s why lying back with my eyes closed is one of my favorite things to do.… More