Love has no agenda …

When I have learned to love myself, I can truly love another, without using him to meet my own needs. When I have faced my own open wounds and my own scars, and known both “weakness” and strength side-by-side in me, I can love another completely and unconditionally, without judging him. … More

We can choose to transcend differences using love, or inflate them using fear. How big are your differences? … More

We can tell what we’re ready for by what comes our way. And instead of lamenting what’s presented — because we were hoping for something “more” — we can be grateful for what is. When we appreciate what is, embrace it, and learn from it, we ready ourselves for what will be.
You may want your prince to show up with a kiss that magically transforms your life, but the prince isn’t going to show up until the princess is ready. Cinderella had to sweep a lot of floors and do a lot of soul searching before she got to dance with the prince … and then she had to let go of him at midnight. Only then, were they united in an ongoing dance of the heart.
So when you encounter still another floor to sweep, sweep well. When you’re challenged to search your soul and purge another layer of fear, purge well. When you encounter a beautiful human being who’s not your prince (or princess), love well.
Take joy in what is! Don’t try to squeeze yourself or somebody else into an ill-founded script. Play the role of you, stark naked you. And when you’re playing it well, your prince (or princess) will show up.… More

A relationship is work; but if I allow enough time and energy for the work, it feels like the most rewarding of all work! If not, it just feels like a bad investment! Give it all you’ve got! … More

Ana Speaks Radio Show

Jan Denise, author and speaker, joins us for a chat about Love, Sex, and Intimacy. More about Jan Denise at www.jandenise.com

Join the conversation tomorrow, Wednesday July 19th, 9pm EST. Click Listen Live at www.anaspeaks.com, #anaspeaks… More

Dating can be like a box of chocolates — you never know what you’re gonna get (borrowing from the movie “Forest Gump”). Even when we’ve taken great care to screen the chocolates, we can be surprised. The good news is — all the chocolates have something to teach us! When we’re following our truth, we always win. There are no “bad” chocolates! You knew that! There are no “bad” dates, either. … More