Love has no agenda …

Love — the only sure thing we have — is, in the context of romantic relationships, a gamble! I don’t think we can lose, though … if we are able to take the risk with the belief that there is no losing.

Without fear, there is only love. And love can’t lose.… More

I will not be overwhelmed by the steps I am not yet ready for. I am ready for this step, the one in front of me, the only one I can take right now. And by itself, it feels both doable and challenging. I will be present for this step. I will delight in this step; I will celebrate THIS step! In doing so, I will be prepared for the next step. And I will know just how to take it, how to live through it, with joy! Life-giving joy!… More

QUESTION: She’s a good person, which is hard to find. And she’s ready, but I’m not sure she’s the one … and I don’t feel like I can afford another divorce. Do I risk everything?
When you commit to somebody — especially for better or worse, til death do you part — there’s an inherent risk. And it can feel as though you risk everything: Self-esteem, reputation, meaningful relationships, half of what’s left of your estate and even your last chance at happiness.
What do you really risk, though? The court doesn’t generally take what was already yours when you entered the marriage.
The real problem is that sometimes we’re looking to get from a relationship what we haven’t quite been able to get our arms around. So, it may feel as though we’re risking what we don’t truly have yet.
Marriage can offer you a partner in life, a trusted companion. If you’re looking for more than that — i.e., self-esteem, reputation, meaningful relationships, money or happiness — you’re barking up the wrong tree, but you’re not alone!
Those who enter a relationship thinking it will make them happy are disappointed, every time. But if you’re emotionally healthy going in, you’re likely to enjoy a healthy relationship … and remain healthy even if the relationship ends.… More

I only want to commit to one thing: Being true to myself, or aligning with love (same thing). And that doesn’t necessarily mean staying with a partner … unless I trust that partner to align with love as much as I trust myself to align with love, unless I find oneness with that partner. That’s how I knew I had found my prince! … More

Men — and even women — have struggled for centuries to figure out what women want. It’s easier to tell you what they DON’T want!

Women don’t want a fraidy cat. And the rest is up for grabs — it depends on the woman and her preferences. I know … that’s an unsophisticated response to Freud’s: “Despite my 30 years of research into the feminine soul, I have not been able to answer … the great question that has never been answered: What does a woman want?”

Stay with me, though. If a man’s not afraid, he’s not intimidated by a woman’s intelligence. He appreciates her intuition. He’s not threatened by her emotions, however cyclical; and he’s not embarrassed by his own. He’s strong and vulnerable. He’s true to himself … and that means, according to Shakespeare, he’s true to her.

I could probably rest my case now, but I have another 450 words.

You’ve probably heard how not being afraid of rejection works when you’re selling life insurance. There’s an old story about a man who was offered one dollar for every “no” he got. With nothing to lose and a dollar to gain, he fearlessly approached prospects. Consequently, he got rich.… More