Love has no agenda …

I spoke with a customer support rep in India yesterday. I could barely understand his English, and I thought it would be so much easier if I could just talk to somebody who spoke MY language! Customer service issues are great lessons in Love School, because we’re already vulnerable to frustration.

That’s often the case in our relationships, as well! And we react to a partner much the same way! Without realizing it, we may think it would be so much easier if they just spoke our language, if they just understood what we were saying, because we’re pretty convinced we’re right. But the problem may not be their language or lack of understanding. The problem may be our own faulty perception that the differences interfere with reaching the common goal!

And that’s exactly what I realized during my conversation with Monage yesterday! I explained it to him; and I think he understood. It doesn’t matter, though. He was perfectly competent to help me. And I owned my lesson out loud. … More

Our actions trump our words; so what we do either validates or invalidates what we say. When we speak from love and act from love, we can’t contradict ourselves! … More

Don’t dismiss what you or your partner feels when you’re tired, hungry, or hormonal. It’s okay to cut each other some slack; but distress is a window into the unconscious! So, use what surfaces in distress as an opportunity to heal what hurts … and it won’t hurt anymore! … More

You can only be impatient, aggravated, angry, jealous, or indignant when you’re afraid. And love has nothing to fear! YOU have nothing to fear; and neither does your partner!… More

I will allow my feelings; I will revel in them. I am not afraid of them — however intense. If I’m not sure they are reciprocated, I can ask questions to find out. If the questions go unappreciated or unanswered, I will still have the answers I need. I will still have my own feelings. And I can redirect them, and continue to grow my capacity to feel. … More