Love has no agenda …

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Wonder why you find yourself repeating the same patterns in relationships? You may think you’re making more conscious choices than you are; 98% of all brain activity is completely unconscious. So, we can’t just consciously think ourselves into healthier relationships; we have to replace some of that unconscious programming that lands us where we don’t want to be! … More

Some of us love to talk — or give directives. And when we’ve done what we love to do, we leave the ball in our partner’s court!

As a very young woman, I played the talking part in my first marriage. Sex was an ultra-sensitive issue for me back then, and once I had spilled my heart, I thought I’d done enough, and I waited for something to change. I spilled my heart and my tears periodically until we divorced, without ever really being part of a solution.

We cannot merely talk about what’s wrong and then blame our partner for not doing something about it. For our relationships to change, we have to be willing to demonstrate our talk with action.

Maybe you want your boyfriend to take you out to dinner once a week; maybe you want your wife to initiate sex. Resolving an issue in a relationship dictates that both partners participate. If you don’t think you should have to participate, ask yourself if you truly want to resolve the issue. Sometimes we just want to spout off and have somebody to blame for our dilemma or our lousy relationship.

If you want your boyfriend to take you to dinner, help him pay for it, pack the picnic or make the reservation.… More

If you find yourself breaking up with the same person over and over again, you likely have a healthy reason for breaking up and an unhealthy reason for sliding back into what seems comforting in the moment. … More

What gives us the impetus to do what is at hand? Is it an encouraging word OR a kick in the butt?

Sometimes we need one, sometimes the other. In both cases, somebody’s saying, “I believe in you!”

And as we take action, we grow faith in ourselves–and in love! When we do what we can, we feel the strength of love. When we show kindness, we see the compassion of love. When we give generously, we share the abundance of love. When we demonstrate understanding, we know the peace of love.

When we give legs to love, we experience the power of love, as part of us.

I believe in you! I must! Because I believe in love! … More

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