Love has no agenda …

We don’t love because somebody needs it, desires it, or deserves it. We love because it is what we must do to be true to our very nature. When we fail to love because of our judgment of somebody else, we don’t betray that somebody. We betray ourselves; and that betrayal grows within us like a cancer. But there is a cure. Unconditional love … anything less isn’t really love. … More

You’re never too old to fall in love; so don’t give up. Just keep learning how to do it better. … More

In a society that esteems youth, just seeing somebody as a young person can make it easier to appreciate them as an old person. And understanding their context helps to grow that appreciation into authentic love. … More

Jogged again yesterday on the trails near the hotel. Since Sam was working late, thought I’d do four miles, instead of my usual two. As I got started, I decided I’d be content with three. Then, I decided I’d be GRATEFUL for three.

And THEN I realized there was some fear in there … if I jogged four, I’d have to do it again, or top four. Lousy reasoning, right? I jogged the four miles.

The truth really does free us, to be our best. And we don’t have to worry about where that leads! … More

Guess what? Some of what bothers you in your relationship is more about you than your partner!

It dawned on me that I felt anxiousness in some of Sam’s little remarks–something as innocent as, “Where’s my wallet,” or “I want my kiss.” Well, that’s not Sam’s anxiety. There is no problem; and he’s not suggesting there is (and I know exactly where his wallet is!). But it FEELS like he’s suggesting that something is awry and needs my attention!

And that, friends, touches on how I coped as a child. Order was my sanity, my survival. Definitely about me! But knowing that this still lingers in my unconscious, I can reprogram on a little deeper level. I LOVE this stuff! … More

In giving, we receive; and in receiving, we also give. Knowing that neither role is superior, we can play both with equal grace.… More