Love has no agenda …

If there’s something missing in my relationship, I’m not giving it. I will get out what I put in. God’s magic!

Always true … in your relationships, too.… More

For the longest time, I didn’t understand how Sam (my husband) could call an action movie mindless and relaxing. I could enjoy watching them; but they seemed anxious and intense to me. I finally got it. The hero always wins! And the drama is staged, unrealistic. No worries–only the bad guy gets hurt.

And guess what? Sam lives his life like he’s the hero! He doesn’t know what comes next. He trusts it! And mostly, he’s relaxed.

PS: Listen to your partner. Ask questions until you understand, rather than assume you can’t! Voice of experience here. … More

If we buy dinner in hopes of sex, or do the laundry in hopes of marriage, we’ll be disappointed. Even if we get what we want, it won’t last–unless we continue to buy dinner or do the laundry. And that makes for an angry and resentful life.

Often, when we’re disappointed in our results–or our life–we can revisit our motivation to see what went wrong.

Love is always the right reason to act! And it doesn’t much matter what we do, if we do it in love! Nor does it matter what the result is! … More

Perfection is not found in the result; it’s found in the motivation. When the motivation is love, the result is! … More

If you’re in a relationship and you think you’re always right, you’re probably wrong. But if you’re right, go find somebody you can learn from … unless it’s more important to you to be right than happy.… More