Love has no agenda …

When my first priority is being true to myself, the others will be revealed. I’ll know what comes next, and next, and next–whether I’m planning a Monday, a vacation, or a career. … More

You used to go to your in-laws for Christmas. Now, you host dinner, but your father-in-law still carves the turkey … and your husband still yields at every point with, “Yes, Sir.” It took you the first six years of your marriage to really know the groom; and you’re still trying to get to know the guy he turns into around his father! Or, maybe you’re too busy resenting the charade to try to understand it.

Remember the first time you were dumbfounded watching your sweetheart with his college buddies or his pals from the old neighborhood? You watched this man who had romanced you with poetry and baby talk turn into a gruff, back-slapping guy with a limited vocabulary. That was a poignant picture of how men communicate differently with different people — especially when they haven’t yet come into their own.

Enough about him, though. How does your behavior change when your oldest sister arrives on the scene or your ex shows up unexpectedly? Who intimidates you so much that you become somebody you don’t want to be, somebody you’re not?

Oddly enough, one of those people could be your sweetheart!

With all the entertaining and socializing coming up, this is the perfect time to observe how free you are, with and without an audience … whether that audience is your sweetheart, the crew from work, or your mother.… More

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Merry is a part of love. The more love, the more merry. The purer the love, the purer the merry!

No matter what we want more of, no matter what we want purer of, we will find it as we purify our love; because purer love is bigger love. … More

When we love somebody, we get to know them, we understand their secrets, and we hold their wounds sacred. We also give them a safe place to grow beyond the secrets, and to heal the wounds.

If we have loved ourselves this way, we will know how to love somebody else this way; and we will know how to let somebody else love us this way.

This way is the only way to love somebody; but we try other ways. We struggle to find this one. And we continually learn to do it better. … More

Keep the physical passion alive in your relationship, without reducing lovemaking to a physical urge. … More