Love has no agenda …

Love is this vibrant every day the sun rises.

Photo: Took this shot from the air yesterday, with my baby at the controls, on our first-ever trip to the Dominican Republic.… More

When you think your sweetheart says “no” to sex, look at what he (or she) is really saying no to. If they’ve merely resisted your approach, try another one. Get a “yes” to something and see where it leads.

Your sweetheart may be more readied by quiet conversation than intense kissing or foreplay. Tune into what they want now, and let that pave the way for more. … More

One of the most life-changing lessons we learn: OUR negative emotion is about us. There is nobody else to blame for it, no situation responsible for it. I feel tension when I feel inept or inadequate … and I can only feel that way if I lose connection with my source. … More

We can’t isolate the health of our body. It’s attached to what we think and feel. Our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health act to strengthen and weaken each other.

Remember when you found out he was cheating on you, and cozied up on the sofa for three days with a box of chocolates? Now, try to remember why you did that. It wasn’t really because he cheated. It was because you started to think YOU were the reason he cheated!

That thought was enough to make you feel despondent. In that moment, you wanted to escape the emotional pain more than you wanted to take care of your body … and binging on chocolate when you were already beating yourself up for being so fat that he cheated on you was enough to condemn your sinful soul. All this because he’s still learning to make a distinction between a biological urge and love … and you thought it was a negative reflection on you?

Our health starts with our thinking.

I won’t suggest that you think positive thoughts all the time. Start by being aware of what you think and what it does to you. Then, write about it. Writing about stressful or emotional events improves both physical and psychological health, according to research by Karen A.… More

Now, I want to resolve to celebrate love every day … to give what I have, without fuss, without expectation, and without wondering if it’s enough.

Just imagine doing Christmas well every day between now and next Christmas! Will you join me!?

Photo: Christmas Eve stroll with my grandnephew, before breakfast!… More

Being true to ourselves, while honoring the one we love, is an ongoing choice. We continually balance meeting our own needs with responding to the needs of the one we love. And unless we meet our own needs FIRST, we have compromised our ability to see and respond to our sweetheart’s needs. We have also compromised our peace, our joy, and our health!

We can’t tune into a partner’s needs and respond to them to the best of our ability, if WE are chronically “hungry.” It may seem easier to provide what a sweetheart needs than to assess our own needs and meet them, but that doesn’t mean it truly serves us–or our partner.

And the longer we choose “easy,” the tougher it is to break the habit. We can do it, though; and we can ask our sweetheart for help. A partner who loves us wants us to be the best we can be–even if it means less immediate gratification for them.

When we step back and look at the big picture, it can be more apparent what serves the highest good, not just for today, but for a lifetime. … More