Love has no agenda …

From a reader: “I thought I was giving him everything he wanted. Apparently, I had no idea what he really wanted … maybe I never had it to give.”

Why does a partner cheat? Somebody, typically in an emotionally charged state, has been asking that question since the first betrayal.

Studies, by presumably objective scientists, show that men generally cheat because they want more sex or variety — they’re biologically programmed to sow their seed widely. Women, on the other hand, tend to cheat because they want more emotional connection or validation.

Yes, there are other reasons…but it’s safe to say that when a partner cheats, they want something that they are not getting. And when the relationship lacks what one partner wants, it almost certainly lacks what the other partner wants as well. Still, the cheated partner is often devastated.

Men and women alike beat themselves up for not seeing it coming or not doing something to prevent it. Though, some of them, as you know, are more inclined (at least when talking out loud) to beat their partners up for lacking control, or emotional stability or decency.

Truth is, we’re all doing the best we can and learning — even if at a painfully slow rate — to do better.… More

Loving a partner (or anybody) will always be an ongoing choice. But that doesn’t mean it has to be an ongoing struggle!

There’s only a struggle when there’s conflict, or dissonance; and there’s only dissonance when we don’t align our thoughts and behaviors with our values.

As we align with every aspect of what we know love to be, we also give up the struggle.… More

You are born of love. You can lose touch with it; but you can’t change your essence, anymore than you can change who your parents are.

You are love. And when you align yourself with that love, you know glorious peace.

There is no place like home.… More

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When you lose yourself to somebody or something, it’s not love. It’s obsession.

Love is uniting with somebody who gives you a safe place to be you, a safe place to fall down and get up, a safe place to grow into the very best version of you.

Love is finding yourself.… More

You may not even realize that you’re clinging to a false belief; but if you’re stuck, that’s why.

Let go of the lie! There is no bypass around the truth; so there is no forward motion without it.

You can be free to walk, to run, to fly!… More