Love has no agenda …

We can disagree with somebody and still reach peace, but only after we have considered their perspective.

So, while avoiding politics and religion may mean avoiding some chaos, it also means avoiding true peace, or true community.… More

When we cling to a partner, we don’t cling out of love; we cling out of fear. When we’re healthy and free, we want a healthy and free partner. We’re not afraid to let go.

We can’t imagine that there’s a happier relationship out there for our partner; but if there is, we want him to find it. And that kind of love allows us and the relationship to blossom!… More

You and your sweetheart are intended to work together as partners; but there are times when you feel more opposition than teamwork. During those times, remind yourself. And remind your partner–not just with words, but with actions.

When you nag or criticize, you’re likely to get a knee-jerk reaction from your partner. And you can end up with two butting egos! When you act to support your sweetheart by accepting him and loving him the way he is, you inspire him to be his best self. And, he wants to reciprocate!… More

Today … may we trust love, God, the universe enough to simply be real. May we be present enough with who we are to revel in our majesty. And may we share it with neither pride nor shame. … More

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The media hosts an ongoing parade of beautiful people. They even offer commentary on the most beautiful eyes, lips and buttocks…helping us to embrace both a false sense of normal and a false sense of ideal.

There is no ideal. And there certainly is no ideal for everybody — 5’10” cannot be ideal for a woman who is 5’4″. I know this!

Yet studies show that the vast majority of women are uncomfortable with their looks, particularly their bodies. But women are giving men — who live longer, stay more active and marry women half their age (I’m funny, not bitter, really) — a taste of how it feels to be gawked at, reveled in and critiqued.

Still, women are more apt to be trapped in their innate desire to please men (the creation story in Genesis nails this). Measuring up to the ideal they think men want weighs on them, the way being strong and powerful weighs on many men.

Think about it, though. The average man is less than 5 feet 10 inches tall. Do you really think he prefers a 5-foot 10-inch woman to make him feel big and strong? There is no ideal match, either; I think God made my husband, Sam, 6’3″ just to remove any doubt.… More