Love has no agenda …

We don’t love because somebody needs it, desires it, or deserves it. We love because it is what we must do to be true to our very nature.

When we fail to love because of our judgment of somebody else, we don’t betray that somebody. We betray ourselves; and that betrayal grows within us like a cancer. But there is a cure.

Unconditional love … anything less isn’t really love.… More

If we want to know what kind of partner we’re ready to meet, we can simply look around at the ones we’re meeting. But we need not be too concerned if we don’t see the one.

What we do see, will help to teach us what we need to know to be the one, so that we can meet the one. … More

Dear Friends,

I hope you have found paradise this summer. I hope you have found the place where everything is okay and nothing can shake your peace.

It is within you.

And when you find it, your external world reflects its peace and beauty. It is perfect — not because it is ideal by anybody else’s standards, but because it is ideal by yours. It is ideal by yours because you see it through knowing eyes, and because you trust that you are getting exactly what you need. And, because you are open to getting what you need from what’s there, you do.

It is like being on a vacation perfectly planned by your psychotherapist, your mentor, and your personal trainer. You trust them to serve your highest good. You are able to feel the sweetness in tears; you sit with your feelings beside the water. You are able to see the growth in sore muscles; you relax into a full-body massage in the garden. You are refreshed.

Your spirit sings. Your lips invite kisses. Your heart and your mind are open. You are present to delight in what is, without worrying about what is not.

If you haven’t found your paradise this summer, you can.… More

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Dear Friends,

We can learn to get what we want in life. And part of that is learning to align our desires, our intentions, and our beliefs. I’m finally really getting this.

When we have a desire, we want something. When we have an intention, we intend to have what it is we want. And when we intend to have it, we live life as though we will have it. If we only want something, we may intend to go on wanting it indefinitely. We may go through the motions of doing something about our desire only to relieve our sense of obligation to do something, with no real intention of ever satisfying our desire.

If we want something and we don’t intend to have it, chances are we have conflicting desires or limiting beliefs.

Maybe you want to lose ten pounds and you also want to continue to eat as much as you’re eating now. Hmmm … looking honestly at both of your desires allows you to see an option you may have missed. And the option to burn more calories — rather than eat fewer calories — may spur an intention.

Maybe you want to get along with your sweetheart and you also want to make him see how wrong he is.… More

Dear Friends,

If you’re looking for a partner to spend the rest of your life with and frequently find yourself disenchanted, consider raising the standard. I know, somebody else might suggest you lower it. Somebody else might tell you that you’re being too picky. But you wouldn’t really expect that from me, right?

We like the idea of wowing somebody in a relationship. It feels good! There’s an inherent problem in wowing somebody, though. It’s disenchantment. If he’s stunned by your brilliance, are you going to feel stimulated by his?

And, is he going to help you reach the next level — or encourage complacency? If he’s amazed by your incredible muscle tone, he might not be the rigorous workout partner you’re looking for. If she’s in awe of your pure heart, she’s not apt to discern a weak moment and help you get back on track.

If somebody is too impressed with who you are, beware of his standards. Consider her ability to keep your attention.

If you want somebody who will help inspire you to reach the next level, don’t look for somebody who’s overly impressed.

Of course, somebody can be wowed, without being wowed across the board. Maybe he’s wowed with your spirit but not your mind.… More