Love has no agenda …

As long as there are single people, they will strive to meet each other and explore the prospects of pairing up. If it were easy, I wouldn’t get so much mail.

We make it harder than it has to be, though. We go to a lecture or a park or a bar to meet somebody. We look around and dismiss the options or wait for them to fall at our feet. They don’t. And we go home!

We pass up opportunities and then lament the lack thereof. We justify passing with: He’s not really my type. She would never go for me…I really need a different car. It’s too hot out here. I’ve got work to do. Who am I trying to kid?

We lack initiative because we lack faith. If you believed she would go for you, you would, with natural warmth and charm, sprint over and introduce yourself.

If this resonates, look at why she wouldn’t go for you. Then, do something about it. Be the person you might be attracted to if you were in her place. Don’t get a new car for her, but if you want a new car, get one. Don’t lose 10 pounds for him, but if you’re feeling dejected, lose the 10 pounds for you.… More

I heard him coming as he got ahead of me to open the door. Then, his smile turned to, “Oops, I hope you’re not one of those women who prefer to get the door themselves.”

Men are confused! They instinctively notice women and want to be strong for them. And according to some studies, men automatically view women as sexual.

I could have opened the door myself, but I like that he noticed me and opened the door. And I even like the idea that maybe he saw me as sexual. It felt natural to both of us — until he stopped to think about what was politically correct.

The mere term “politically correct” is a red flag. We don’t all want to be politicians!

And we mess with equality when we imply that one gender needs a handicap. The key is to recognize that we truly are equal; and that being equal, we can be — and want to be — different.

Men and women are different. We are all different. And sometimes society’s effort to equalize us looks more like an effort to abolish the differences than honor the differences (a vital part of who we are).

We don’t all want to run to an office every morning, and we don’t all want to tend to children day and night.… More

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If you’re not sure you want an intimate relationship, perhaps you have yet to imagine the ecstasy of authentic love with a partner.

Yes, you can know authentic love for yourself, for others, for your God. But the ultimate in human gratification is to know physical and spiritual oneness with a partner.

And there is no giving up authentic love with everybody else.… More

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Somebody else’s behavior can only irritate me if I decide that it means I’m not good enough. I am. You are! To hold on to that truth is to choose love. To let go of that truth is to feed our fear.

When we choose love, we’re home free. We spend our time and energy where it is rewarded with happy! … More