Love has no agenda …

It doesn’t matter so much what kind of house we live in, what car we drive, or clothes we wear. What matters is how much respect and gratitude we show for them.

We are rewarded–both tangibly and intangibly–for taking care of what we have.… More

Two people connect based on what they know about each other. So their connection is only as true—and as deep—as what they share with each other.

Don’t hide anything!… More

Naked is the only way to be in love, to be free, to be happy.

What cover-up do you want to remove? What task do you want to stop doing? What role do you want to stop playing? What lie or distortion do you want to clear up?

And when … do you want to be free and happy in love?… More

Just as there’s something about a baby, there is something about you. Please remember how absolutely precious you were … and are. Nothing can ever alter or rob you of what makes you a sacred miracle. Your essence will always be untainted.

Aligning with it–maybe reclaiming it first–is a choice you can make.

Live like a miracle! … More

While you’re thinking of all the ways you can improve your home, don’t get preoccupied with trends and technology. Make sure it reflects the behavioral, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, sexual, and magical you. Then consider all the ways you and your sweetheart can enjoy every facet of each other in your space. And then, build in reminders.

When you’re caught up in the busyness or routine of everyday life, you might not think to give each other a massage, discover the stars together, or share your latest insight … unless you’re prompted by props. A little planning can ensure that you have ready space to engage, nurture, and affirm each other.

Here’s how it works. Think about the different aspects of you:

Behavioral — what do you like to do? Make sure your space makes it easy for you to smile, play Scrabble, sit in the garden, dance to old songs, bake brownies, or whatever. And don’t forget the props. Use solar lights in the garden that beckon you into the night, keep your favorite song at the touch of a button on the dinner table. Find repose in tradition, but don’t limit yourself to old standbys. Try out new interests — sing, paint, jog, or build something together.… More

With the emphasis on home and garden this month, it’s easy to feel as though you spend more time maintaining your home than enjoying it, right? And chances are you’ve also felt that way about your relationship. The words — muttered or screamed — go something like, “My God, can’t we be civil long enough to enjoy one measly weekend?”

Therein lies the problem! When you can’t get along, anger and resentment are brewing, just waiting to boil over. So, you find yourself either boiling over or trying to keep a lid on it. Not fun! And although you are not actually doing anything to maintain the relationship, what you are doing is draining. You feel spent, with nothing to show for it.

You’ve probably used plenty of Saturdays, albeit with better results, to spruce up the house, mow the yard, plant flowers — or at least lined up somebody else to do it all? Well, taking care of your relationship also requires time; and you can’t delegate it! You have to get involved in the details and follow through, not simply endure the agony of what’s gone awry. It’s work.

While doing it may not seem like fun; not doing it is even less fun.… More