Love has no agenda …

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Once upon a time there was a baby girl. And all of her needs were seamlessly met … until one day she fell down. Baby Girl cried, and cried, and cried, until she had to stop crying to catch her breath. And that’s when she saw her blanket. She stretched her little arm as far as she could and tugged on the soft, warm blanket until it fell down right on top of her. And finally, she felt safe again.

Then and there, she decided that she would never be without her blanket. And she held on to it for dear life. There was no fall, no monster, no darkness, that she and her blanket couldn’t overcome together. Sometimes she used the blanket as a pacifier, sometimes a sword, and sometimes a cave. And as her blanket grew old and tattered, she grew into a little girl.

One day she met a little boy who wanted to play house with her. The little boy said that he would love her forever, if she would just hold on to him with both hands. The little girl wanted to say yes, she wanted to reach out with both hands and live happily ever after with that boy.… More

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Even after we think we’ve taken full responsibility for our actions, no long blaming anybody else for them or expecting anything in return for them, a committed relationship can present fresh challenges and excuses. Even after we’ve learned not to personalize somebody else’s behavior, how can we NOT personalize an intimate partner’s?

Well, the same truths apply!… More

Occasionally the truth flashes in front of us; and we catch a glimpse of what contradicts the theory that we’re being honest, or that we have it all together, or that it’s somebody else’s fault that we don’t. We’re busy, though; we don’t have time to sit with the truth. And acting on it is just too much this week … this month … and this year.

We can stop, though. And we can decide one minute at a time to tune in to our own music and take our life back. … More

ntimacy is a connection based on what you know about each other. If what you know is false, so is your connection. And that connection is the foundation for your love!

Get stark naked and be radically honest.… More