Love has no agenda …

May we listen in the silence, and glisten in the darkness, with the peace of knowing. … More

From the time we learn the word “no,” we begin to get the message that what we would do naturally is “bad.”

As young children, we can’t make a distinction between our behavior and ourselves, so we buy into a lie — the lie that in order to be good enough we have to sit still and be quiet, or look pretty, or SOMETHING. But some of the demands we place on children (and ourselves) are more apt to stifle them than make them good.

“Even if you were fortunate enough to grow up in a safe, nurturing environment, you still bear invisible scars from childhood, because from the very moment you were born you were a complex, dependent creature with a never-ending cycle of needs. Freud correctly labeled us ‘insatiable beings.’ And no parents, no matter how devoted, are able to respond perfectly to all of these changing needs,” says Harville Hendrix in his bestselling “Getting the Love You Want.”

We have a fundamental motivation to be accepted, which is why you might jump to defend yourself, your parents, your children (even while reading this). Rejection used to point to a problem that needed our attention, and our survival depended on how sensitive and responsive we were.… More

When we trust this truth, we allow the universe to serve us. And it does.… More

According to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, self-actualization is at the top. Sex is at the bottom–a basic, perhaps over-rated, physiological need–along with air, food, water, and sleep.
But at its best, sex is a means of baring your body, mind, and sprit and meeting somebody at the top of Maslow’s mountain. It is a means of making everything that may get in the way disappear while you fulfill, in one simple act, your self-actualization needs. It may last only for a moment; still it is a moment that you can hold on to.

Excerpt from my first book “Naked Relationships: Sharing your authentic self to find the partner of your dreams”… More