Love has no agenda …

We don’t lack anything, because love doesn’t. Love is ours for the taking, the doing, the being, and the sharing.

And LOVE is Enough! EVERYTHING good is in there!… More

Once a month she hates me, and I can’t do anything right. It’s like clock work, so it must be hormones. But sometimes I wonder if she’s always unhappy with the relationship … and the truth only comes out once a month.

A wise man! Even hormonal shifts can only trigger existing feelings.

Christiane Northrup explains that PMS, SAD (seasonal affective disorder) and perimenopause simply uncover unconscious conflicts that are just waiting to be processed.

The hormones are not the problem. They are, in fact, the solution! They, if we let them, direct our attention where it’s needed.

The problem is that we don’t take the time to work through the conflicts. We suppress them, instead, but they don’t go away. They come back kicking and screaming every month … during a cycle designed to keep us at peace.

During the first half of the menstrual cycle, women’s hormones support a focus on other people and things outside themselves. Then, from ovulation to the onset of a period (in women who aren’t pregnant), their focus turns inward … and they’re less apt to ignore conflict to keep the peace.

If you’re a woman, you know the feeling — you’ve had enough, you’ve given enough, and you want to scream out, “Hello, I’m a person, too!”… More

Most of us are smart enough not to go to a movie on a first date. We can get to know each other better while we eat in a quiet restaurant or walk through a park.

However, we seem to lose some of our smarts after we commit — and sit in front of the TV an average of 21 hours a week. And it’s not really three out of 24 hours; it’s closer to three out of the seven hours we have left after sleep and work.

You might be thinking, like this reader did, that you already know your partner:

“I didn’t think people really changed, but we’ve grown apart. It’s like we don’t know each other anymore.”

You can’t just get to know a sweetheart once and for all. People are always evolving, learning what works and what doesn’t, and learning more about themselves and what they truly want. Knowing each other is an ongoing process, made possible only by ongoing disclosure.

We list communication as one of the top two reasons for divorce — it reads like common knowledge. Yet we don’t take the time to communicate! Effective communication doesn’t just happen. Two people have to be interested and attentive … like two people wanting to get to know each other well enough to share a first kiss.… More

Don’t worry about how he sees you sexually or how you see him sexually.

Focus on how you see yourself sexually. Choose how you want to feel, how you want to appear, how you want to express yourself, your sexuality, and your love.

Then, revisit how he sees you and how you see him.

I think you’ll find there’s nothing left to worry about.

PS: This photo may represent an image you want or don’t want. There is no wrong if it’s true to you.… More

Loving ourselves allows us to truly love others.

When we know who we are, we know who others are. We all share the same essence. When we face our own brokenness, we can see brokenness in others, without defining them by it. There is neither pride nor shame. There is neither superiority nor inferiority.

Our essence is love. Our brokenness is a part of coming to know that.… More

Sam and I had a very long talk Sunday morning. We SO needed to talk, which means It would have been SO much easier not to.

A healthy relationship is work. And it can feel like more work when you go through a big move, one of you gets sick, and one of you is out of town for ten days. We don’t do our best work when we’re sick and tired!

Relationships are a priority, though. And our primary relationship with a partner is a BIG priority–either that, or it’s unhealthy.

Healthy is an ongoing choice. … More