Love has no agenda …

You don’t have to reach any particular place or level of spirituality to live a rich and satisfying life. You need only tune into love.

And when you find love within, you will find it without.… More

Can you imagine what happens when we let prayer become a faithless habit?… More

If you know you’re good enough but feel haunted by the lie that you lack something, the lie lingers in your unconscious. It is still a lie.

You can replace it with the truth.

How?

Just getting to what’s in our unconscious mind can be the toughest part. We have to realize that it’s there and clearly identify it to let go of it.

I like to exhale and blow it out into space until I can no longer see it or feel it. (Taking a really deep breath before exhaling helps me to release it from a deep place.)

Then I can inhale the truth, welcome it to every fiber of my being. I can get comfortable with it. I can feel it, live it, be it.

And I can remind myself of the truth when I forget. I can repeat the process as many times as it takes.

Love and smiles,
Jan… More

Learn from the past.
Love well now.
Trust the future.… More

Men have their own brand of “PMS”

“PMS” triggers what troubles us … and so do some other things. Fatigue, hunger, a bad day or a headache can all bring out our frustrations.

Women are not alone in their frustration; they just have a monthly cycle to help them manage it … especially worth noting in the heat of today’s politics.

Women are more apt to let their activity revolve around the men in their lives. Men might hold some stuff in and tough it out, but they’re less likely to spend as much time tending to others as women do. So, during a woman’s monthly cycle she’s apt to scream out (or want to), “I’m a person, too!”

Still, there is that which triggers a man’s frustration, or the pressure he feels. And, I don’t want to overstate our differences, but … when a man is hungry, a woman tends to feed him. When a man comes home tired after a bad day, a woman tends to be there — comforting him, getting him something to drink and picking up his clothes.

No, women are not all the same, and they’re not the same from cradle to grave; and neither are men.… More

I am writing to you on Halloween, a time to masquerade as somebody we’re not. And, of course, I’m reminded that we don’t reserve the mask for Halloween. (I played a rabbit on Easter.)

Tomorrow begins November, a time of Thanksgiving. And Christmas, a time of giving, follows … more quickly than ever. We will be called on to play roles. Some of them will fit us; some of them will not.

My goal, more than ever, is to play only the roles that fit.

Sam and I want to include family, his family and my family, and make sure we don’t leave ourselves behind. We want to do what we do and give what we give wholeheartedly. Sounds simple. But it’s easy to slip into an expected role for the kids, the parents, the office. And there is only so much time to bake cookies and shop for “heart-felt” gifts, which can leave us serving up the “obligatory.” The real gift, however it is expressed, is love. Unfortunately, the love is sometimes bypassed for appearance or convenience.

Perhaps if we begin now to think of what we are truly grateful for and what we truly want to give, we can make Thanksgiving and Christmas as honest and meaningful as love is.… More