Love has no agenda …

If you love your partner and want to have sex more often, chances are you feel like something is missing in your relationship.

Part of the solution is finding time for sex. You read the headlines while you put cream in your coffee. You manage to get dinner delivered by pushing two buttons on your phone. And you’ve found a drive-through wash and wax en route from the office. But, you haven’t figured out how to fit sex into your routine.

Maybe you don’t want sex to be routine!

It’s not just a lack of time or planning; it’s a lack of motivation. You up the ante, and the motivation, when you realize that sex is a chance to identify and add what’s missing in your relationship. Going for it is still a challenge, though … one that’s easier to meet with practice, which can require some discipline. You have to make it a priority.

It was easier when you were infatuated and devoting every waking moment to each other. When “real life” kicks in, things inevitably get in the way. One’s late, the other one’s tired, the kids ARE, life is full.

Start where you are, and use what you have.… More

When we let go of our egos, we find that loving others is enough.

We don’t have to benefit from them, show them the error of their ways, or even help them.

We can simply love them.… More

No matter where you are at this moment, you can decide to move toward your dreams. And even the first step brings a taste of peace and happiness. … More

Are you and your partner in sync? Do you work, eat and sleep at the same times?

You might look at celebrities and long-distance partners and wonder how they do it, but maybe you could just as viably wonder how you do it. That is, if you were objective.

If you were a therapist on the wall in your kitchen, living room and bedroom, what in the world would you be thinking?

You’ve seen the ongoing analysis of famous couples walking down the sidewalk. How he holds her hand, how she holds her purse, everything means something. And nobody’s in a better position than you are to know what your behavior means.

How often do you actually walk down the sidewalk together? How often are you in the same room together? How often do you look into each other’s eyes? Touch each other? Compliment each other? Nag each other?

If your initial observations (as an objective party on the wall) raise concern, start making changes — simple changes that seem like no-brainers from a distance.

Schedule dinner at the same time every night. It doesn’t matter how often you actually eat at 7, what matters is that you have a date — to keep or reschedule!… More

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If there’s something you want that you don’t have, it’s because you cling to something that no longer serves you.

You can let go! … More