Love has no agenda …

Do you sometimes catch yourself rowing against your partner? Well, maybe now you will.

Step into the boat with your sweetheart, learn to communicate a common direction, work in tandem, grow together, and live in harmony.

Love the journey.… More

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Dear Friends,

When we are closed-minded, we fail to learn from others. That seems pretty obvious.
The biggest problem with being closed-minded, though, is that it keeps us from knowing ourselves. We think we know who we are, but we don’t. We’re holding on to obsolete programming and false beliefs. And we can’t love ourselves (or others) very well without knowing ourselves.

So when I feel closed-minded, judgmental, or just resistant, I can beware the flag. I can open a window in my mind and heart. I can seize the opportunity to identify and embrace new knowledge. With knowledge comes understanding. And with understanding comes acceptance. They are part of love.

I cannot be both closed-minded and loving.

Love smiles,

Jan Denise

PS: This is the love note that opened yesterday’s newsletter. You can sign up to get it every Wednesday by e-mail. … More

Too much of a monotonous task, especially with no reward in sight, can understandably bore you; but when boredom follows you from the laundry room to the office to the bedroom, don’t ignore it.

If you’re often bored, scientists say you’re at greater risk of developing anxiety, depression, drug addiction, angry and aggressive behavior, a lack of interpersonal skills and poor performance!

And a new study shows that boredom undermines satisfaction (read: happiness) in relationships, which can make grass on the other side of the fence appear greener than it actually is and ultimately weaken your commitment. The seven-year itch is no coincidence or myth.

If your boredom is based on droning circumstances, you can change them by doing something that enlivens you. If routine is sabotaging your relationship, you can grab your sweetheart and do something that engages both of you. And don’t wait … because the longer you’re bored with circumstances, the more likely you are to get bored with life in general.

So, what if you’ve already crossed that line? Look at when you became disinterested and why. Look at the desires you have repressed and the goals you have given up.

When you’ve lost touch with what rouses your passion, you can find yourself indifferent, with no sense of direction or purpose.… More

There is only love and fear.

And fear, albeit an illusion, allows us the privilege of choice.… More