Love has no agenda …

The global peace we want starts in our own hearts, our own hands, our own homes.

And the only prerequisite is opening to individual value, ours and that of every other human being. That means opening to their perspective. We can’t reach peace with others by arbitrarily deciding how they should think.

I hereby open my heart to your view, knowing it is valuable, because YOU are. I will do my best to avoid pre-judging your view, knowing the inherent value for all of us in an open mind. A closed mind is a scared one.… More

Open up to the possibility that your partner’s view point is just as viable as yours. When he/she says something contrary to what you think, particularly about you, instead of reacting defensively, consider the words, “maybe you’re right.”

Lack of resistance is like magic. It removes the sting that we attached to the truth! It frees us to move on in love and be happy … in our relationship and in life. … More

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If you don’t want to go out, you can stay home; but if you don’t want to go anyplace in your relationship, you can’t just stay put. You will move to a lower place, a hell of sorts.

Life doesn’t stand still; it either grows or dies. The same is true for your relationship. If you are not moving closer as partners, you are moving apart. There is no pause button.

So, where do you want to go in your relationship?

Here’s the map to heaven.

You are within a few steps of peace, or oneness, with yourself and your partner (plus the planet); and that is heaven. If peace seems to elude you, it is because you are stuck enroute. When you see where you are, you can navigate in the right direction; and when you see how close you are to peace, you will want to press on.

Five Steps to Peace

1. P-retending to Be What You Are Not
2. E-goic Striving
3. A-dmitting Dissonance and Confusion
4. C-oming Clean
5. E-xperiencing Ecstasy and Oneness

You Are Here … if you

Pretending to Be What You Are Not: Fear and your survival instinct kicked in when Mommy and Daddy wanted you to be something you weren’t naturally — even if it was just quiet—and the charade to win approval began.… More

We can’t isolate the health of our body. It’s attached to what we think and feel. Our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health act to strengthen and weaken each other.

Remember when you found out he was cheating on you, and cozied up on the sofa for three days with a box of chocolates? Now, try to remember why you did that. It wasn’t really because he cheated. It was because you started to think YOU were the reason he cheated!

That thought was enough to make you feel despondent. In that moment, you wanted to escape the emotional pain more than you wanted to take care of your body … and binging on chocolate when you were already beating yourself up for being so fat that he cheated on you was enough to condemn your sinful soul. All this because he’s still learning to make a distinction between a biological urge and love … and you thought it was a negative reflection on you?

Our health starts with our thinking.

I’m not going to suggest that you try to think positive thoughts all the time. Start by being aware of what you think and what it does to you. Then, write about it.… More

When you start to feel “right” in conversation, stop and take a breath. Then tread softly with a question, instead of a judgment.

Hey, life just feels better when you’re nice! … More