Love has no agenda …

There is nothing you can say or do, nothing you can go through, that can change your essence of love! And love can’t fail. It is everything good untainted by fear. You are! … More

Don’t let fear keep you from the experience you need to move forward and live your dreams. … More

The more real you are, the more real your connection is. You can only connect to the degree that you’re willing to know and share who you are.

To get the love you long for, you have to get stark naked … physically, mentally, and emotionally. … More

When we assume that what keeps us from getting married is finding the right person or being somebody else’s idea of the right person, we just might bark up the wrong tree — for a very long time.

A lot of people tell me, “I want to get married, I just can’t find the right person.” And it’s on that potentially false premise that they continue to search for the one. But isn’t it possible that they, or you, are not truly ready to choose and commit to a life partner?

Others say, “If I can’t make him happy, I must not be what he (read: anybody) wants in a woman,” and that can leave them trying to conform to what they think he wants. But maybe he’s just not ready to commit — to anybody?

Please don’t interpret that as a diagnosis of commitment phobia. It’s OK not to be ready. The key is to realize it … and go about being the person you want to be in the meantime. It’s easy enough to look around and find examples of what happens when people who aren’t truly ready to commit do it anyway (it can be much easier to spot a lack of readiness in somebody else).… More

With the emphasis on home and garden this month, it’s easy to feel as though you spend more time maintaining your home than enjoying it, right? And chances are you’ve also felt that way about your relationship. The words — muttered or screamed — go something like, “My God, can’t we be civil long enough to enjoy one measly weekend?”

Therein lies the problem! When you can’t get along, anger and resentment are brewing, just waiting to boil over. So, you find yourself either boiling over or trying to keep a lid on it. Not fun! And although you are not actually doing anything to maintain the relationship, what you are doing is draining. You feel spent, with nothing to show for it.

You’ve probably used plenty of Saturdays, albeit with better results, to spruce up the house, mow the yard, plant flowers — or at least lined up somebody else to do it all. Well, taking care of your relationship also requires time; and you can’t delegate it! You have to get involved in the details and follow through, not simply endure the agony of what’s gone awry. It’s work.

While doing it may not seem like fun; not doing it is even less fun.… More

We get comfortable in our own skin by aligning the outside with what’s inside. And to do that, we have to get to know what’s inside.

We have to live our truth.… More