Love has no agenda …

On this beautiful day in May, I want to remind you that you are somebody’s “TEN.” Don’t settle for being less than that. And don’t ask somebody else to settle for being less than your TEN.

Everybody is somebody’s TEN. Be a twelve if you want to, but nothing less than a TEN.

And, hey, make sure YOU see you as a TEN! … More

When I retreat to a corner to cry or scream and then show myself as though nothing is wrong, I hold back some of the truth. I also hold back some of me.

I miss an opportunity to connect on a deeper level with those I profess to love. And those are the very ones I want to know and love all of me.… More

We can truly make love when we voluntarily drop our boundaries, rather than involuntarily dropping them for sex.… More

We can think of love as everything good, and learn to feel it, and trust it … even when it doesn’t match the picture we’ve conjured up.

Scientists now study and measure oxytocin, or the feel-good hormone, that accompanies love. It’s found naturally when Johnny feels joyful, connected, hopeful, loved. And scientists can watch as it broadens Sally’s outlook and encourages her growth.

Love literally nurtures, sustains, energizes, and inspires you to be your best self, to be bigger than you thought was big. It reduces fear and suspicion, without reducing your ability to calculate risk. It keeps babies, who are dependent on caregivers, alive! It’s the difference between life and death.

We can feel it with strangers, acquaintances, friends, siblings, and parents. But, perhaps, our favorite way to feel love is with somebody who is exclusively ours, somebody who is ours to touch in private places, who reaches the deepest part of who we are, who knows us down to the core, and loves us no matter what.

photo of waterfalls from a walk in the dark
note: Sex includes an undisputed–though, short-lived–surge of oxytocin. … More

Imagine watching your life from a distance as a sacred story. See how all the pieces fit together. And trust what’s happening right now to be a beautiful segment.

Let the light in, let the light out. Don’t be afraid of the shadows. Be a vessel for love … and let the story unfold in all the fullness of love.

Trust that in the realm of no time and space the ending has been written. And it is HAPPY … happier than you can yet imagine!… More

What exactly is it that we yearn for, though? Something that makes us feel happy, safe, cared about, connected? Something we saw in a movie or in the happily-ever-after of a fairy-tale sunset, something we heard in a song, something somebody told us we would find someday? Something that satisfies a biological need? All of the above!

We want somebody to eat the pizza with, process the movie with, stand speechless with, wake up with, die with. We want somebody to call when our flight’s delayed, somebody to answer the phone before we spend a night in jail.

We want somebody to know who we are, what we’re truly about … in a world that often looks right through us. We want somebody to see us glisten in the moonlight. We want to be valued. We want to be loved unconditionally. … More